· The whole goal of the future of the present effort is to bring humanity to the point where it – occultly speaking – “enters into light”.
The entire trend of the present urge forward, which can be noted so distinctly in the race, is to enable the race to acquire knowledge, to transmute it into wisdom by the aid of the understanding and thus to become “fully enlightened”. Enlightenment is the major goal of education.
· Two major ideas should immediately be taught the children of every country. They are: the value of the individual and the fact of the One Humanity…these two principles… will lead to the intensive culture of the individual, and then to his recognition of his responsibility as an integral part of the whole body of humanity.
· The problem of the children is basically that of education, using the word in its widest sense, which involves not merely schooling, but also the home, family relationships and the community environment. We should not give them false impressions of historical facts by emphasising nationalism and competition and thus present to their minds distorted values upon which they are expected to build their lives.
· Past educational systems have failed to teach past generations how to live harmoniously and to think in wider terms than those of their own community. They did not prepare the youth of the world for sane, co-operative living or for world citizenship so necessary today.
· Education has largely divorced the spiritual values from the material values in presenting its picture of the world in which we live. Aggression has been extolled. Our heroes have been the great territorial conquerors, the great soldiers or the great explorers. We have eulogised pioneers who opened up unknown lands and, in spite of the original owners of the lands, raised the flags of their own nations upon them. But the spiritual values and the sense of responsibility, blus the moral and ethical virtues have been neglected. The goals presented to the children are not evocative of their creative, divine heredity.
· The problem with which we are faced is to integrate the best of the past educational processes with the higher and newer educational trends which are indicative of a changing civilisation.
· We have to face the necessity [and it is a very real one] of giving our allegiance to the inner realities which underlie world education and in learning to train our children in world citizenship. The instrument to be used in bringing about these changes both in ourselves and in the world is THOUGHT, and not emotion or feeling.
· The spiritual horizon must be seen as inclusive of all the many approaches, and particularly where the youth of the world is concerned. The current delinquency stems not so much from material poverty as from spiritual poverty.
· Bearing in mind that, as indicated in the UN’s Declaration of the Rights of the Child, “the child, by reason of his physical and mental immaturity, needs special safeguards and care, including appropriate legal protection, before as well as after birth”.
· Recognising that the child, for the full and harmonious development of his or her personality, should grow up in a family environment, in an atmosphere of happiness, love and understanding.
· And that the family, as the fundamental group of society and the natural environment for the growth and well-being of all its members and particularly children, should be afforded the necessary protection and assistance so that it can fully assume its responsibilities within the community.
· Recognising that, in all countries in the world, there are children living in exceptionally difficult conditions, and that such children need special consideration.
· Taking due account of the importance of the traditions and cultural values of each nation for the protection and harmonious development of the child.
· Recognising the importance of international co-operation for improving the living conditions of children in every country, in particular in the developing countries.
· Our educational systems are largely material in emphasis and aim to fit children for a competitive life in a material world. Their horizon is too small.
· Our religious training [if given at all] has emphasised a withdrawal from the world and holds out the hope of a future asylum, heaven or nirvana. This produces conflict and cleavage of which the results are only too apparent.
· The New Education will surely give an inclusive training so that the truly complete citizen in any nation will also be an active and conscious citizen of the spiritual world.
· Education is an act or process of educating; discipline of mind or character through study or instruction, also a stage in such a process or the training in it, as to receive a college education.
· Education is essentially the Science of Right relations – to oneself, to one’s fellow men, as well as to the Transcendent and the Immanent God.
· Education is the bulwark of freedom, the transmitter of what mankind in its long uneven progress towards civilisation has learned of right and wrong, good and evil, of selfishness and human brotherhood… the ordeal of our time teaches us, if only we will learn, that war can undermine freedom and morality, but that only the slow processes of education can maintain liberty and justice to all.
· It is the expansion of consciousness and the production of increased sensitivity and perceptive awareness which is the goal of all divine and hierarchical effort. The goal is not for betterment of material conditions. These will automatically follow when the sense of awareness is steadily unfolded. The future of humanity is determined by its aspiration and ability to respond to the idealism which is today flooding the world.
· Education should be the process whereby youth is taught to reason from cause to effect, to know the reason why certain actions are bound inevitably to produce certain results and why – given a certain emotional and mental equipment, plus an ascertained psychological rating – definite life trends can be determined and certain professions and life careers provide the right setting for development and a useful and profitable field of experience.
· Education should be concerned with the wholes of life as well as with the details of daily, individual living. The child, as an individual, will be developed and equipped, trained and motivated and then taught his responsibilities to the whole and the value of the contribution which he can and must make to the group.
· An education which has a true culture for its goal is the approximation of two ways of feeling and of mind, of sensitivity and of thought. It is also the attitude – relational in nature – which will enable us to live as an intelligent subjective being in the tangible physical world. People thus educated relate the world of meaning to the world of appearances and regard them in their minds [thus recognising them with their brains] as constituting one world with two aspects. They move with equal freedom in either.
· It is, first of all, a process of acquiring facts – past and present – and of then learning to infer and gather from this mass of information, gradually accumulated, that which can be of practical use in any given situation. this process involves the fundamentals of our present educational systems.
· It is, secondly a process of learning wisdom as an outgrowth of knowledge and of grasping understandingly the meaning which lies behind the outer imparted facts. It is the power to apply the knowledge in such a manner that sane living and an understanding point of view, plus an intelligent technique of conduct, are the natural results.
· It is a process whereby unity or a sense of synthesis is cultivated. Young people in the future will be taught to think of themselves in relation to the group, to the family unit and the nation… they will also be taught to think in terms of world relationship.
The keynote of the new education is essentially right interpretation of life, past and present, and its relation to the future of mankind; the keynote of the new religion [with which the child must be presented] must and should be a right approach to God, transcendent in nature and immanent in man, whilst the keynote of the new science of politics and of government will be right human relations and for both of these education must prepare the child.
All the information above should service to give us a good general knowledge to tackle this problem of educating the children in the modern world.
In today’s world things are very difficult for the child. Parents, as a result of work commitments, do not always have the time to spend with children and to give the necessary advice and leadership. Materialism is in many cases more important than raising children, especially where both parents are working, and parents rely too much on the educational system to do their work for them. There are also many parents out there who, although they have good intentions and their hearts are into it, are not properly equipped them-selves to raise children at all. They, the parents were never raised properly because their parents might have been poor, alcoholics, drug edicts and so on. We find more social problems today than any other time in the history of humanity.
Our civilization is developing ahead of our spiritual development in the average human being. Children are exposed to TV, mobile phones, computers, social media, the internet and pornography… all things they were never prepared for. Their parents or teachers in many cases can hardly handle these new gadgets themselves. As yet the world, or the scientists, those that do not do their research with a corporate agenda, are unsure what the harmful effects will be on the future race.
In the past, it was first the churches and the religions that had a big influence on the minds of children. When schools and national educational systems were introduced in every country, the governments started to take over that role. Today we find corporations targeting the child from the moment he can sit in front of a TV. They tell him or her, what to eat, to drink, to wear, what to drive, where to go, what is “right”, who to love, who to hate, who to make war against, who to make Gods off, how to live, and so on. Their power is mind boggling and out of control. Governments have become their slaves and thus most educational systems have come under their control. In the USA they believe that more than 90% of the educational system is controlled by Jews who also control the corporations and the government… this is no secret. Money controls and money, or materialism, is trying to rule our minds as well.
In reality there is an evil force working behind all this, but the point is that if the child has a weak will, or do not get the right advice from parents or are not exposed to the right leadership, than that child has no chance at all to succeed in today’s world of tuff competition on all levels. A competition that we even find in our educational systems today, where universities have become big businesses. We see this especially in the Chinese system and in the west where children of rich parents get all the chances to succeed and achieve a higher education in universities. In the one case only the best and the brightest succeed and in the other only the richest have a chance to succeed. The people at the top want to stay at the top and pave the way for their children all the way to the top and so on.
Yes, the power of the corporations and the media networks over the thoughts and actions of our children must be broken through right education that starts in the home of every child. Parents must develop the right outlook in life and pass it on to their children. This can mostly be done by the parents through self-education and turning to alternative media sources. The mainstream media has become a treacherous force of manipulation and lies that must be exposed and eradicated. It is used to brainwash from the cradle to the grave and to hide the truth. People are being born and they die without ever knowing the truth of the realities in life. Too much are being kept secret from them, forcing them to live in ignorance because it suits the powers in control.
Children should be taught to look out and be aware of these manipulations and not to accept everything on its face value. We should educate them about the evil ones and their agendas. Here the parents are under a huge obligation to enlighten themselves on this subject first and to always stay up to date themselves. The children must be taught to make a demarcation between the spiritual and the material. In short, he must be shown the light and how to use it through reason. He must learn to know who works for light and who works to keep the darkness. He must learn to aspect opposition to his development and progress in life and how to deal with it. Many children encounter evil and then don’t know how to handle it because they do not even think of the opsticals in their life as evil or as being put there by evil ones. They are just naïve and ignorant in many ways. Good people or children that is growing up in a protected environment cannot imagine how evil some people in this world can be and for them it comes as a big shock when they do eventually experience this evil deeds or deviousness of the ruling and upper classes of people. Young girls and boy are especially vulnerable to older men when they enter the workforce. I know of many young girls, on their way to womanhood, who have become pray to older married and experienced men in the workforce. At many companies it is the in thing to do.
For a child there are basic three worlds that the child must integrate into; the protected environment that he grew up in; the world of so called “grownups”, where dog eats dog, and the world of spiritual realities. This is why the child must learn to respect the advice of parents and older people because they need their experience to go into the world after many years of studies. Many children do not want to listen and then the parents are forced to stay quiet and to let the child learn all these things through the school of hard knocks. I know of children who have lost a lot of time this way although in the end they did achieve and no time is ever lost in learning something.
Parents are sometimes forced to takes certain steps to protect the family, like immigrating to a foreign country, and the children resent this because they are not yet integrated into the three worlds. They are still in dreamland where the only thing for them is to study and be a child.
Well, the above facts must be explained to them as early as possible. There are enlightened parents who are doing this already. They are aware of the evils in the world and have encountered them first hand. Let’s face the fact that when a child has studied to the age of thirty, he still knows little of the practical workings of this world.
I came across the following comments posted on the interned by people:
1. More of America's best being readied for human blood sacrifice -- to maintain the economic terrorism of the IMF Zionist-Nazi banking/monetary coalition. Hitler’s mother was a servant in the Rothschild house. America must sell off its land to protect a banking/monetary system it doesn't even own. Politicians live in fear of being shot or 'suicided', or losing their bribes. And the military is infiltrated by the Satanic Moles at war with orthodox Christianity. Never has America been so far from it original purposes, or involved in so many war-crime. The banker controlled governance is a total failure and write-off, and not worth saving -- it has become a "coven of witches and crooks" whose religion is the ability to get away with crimes of almost incomprehensible proportions.
Almost everything new the White House does is against The Constitution -- for the military and finance "crime families".
The American establishment marks itself for destruction, out of failure to repent, even when the majority of citizens are against the banker war-actions and crimes. The odious debt mainly rests in the hand of the war-crimes political crooks and Tarnished Brass.
All wars are bankers wars -- driven by their lawlessness and frauds.
2. It is not just the Hollywood Mafia, it is, at it's filthy corrupt heart, the Jewish Entertainment Industry Mafia. The Babylonian Talmud is their holy book, and it commands every Jew to undermine and debase the culture, morals, and integrity of all the non-Jew gentiles. The sexual abuse and raping of their children is also permitted, and even encouraged. By weakening the gentiles, the Jews are made stronger by comparison. It is a satanic playbook for waging war against the world.
I could say more, but it is much too disgusting to go into detail here.
Read the Babylonian Talmud for yourself.
3. The so-called Americans don’t understand their own history. The so-called American 'revolution' of 1776 was nothing more than an uprising financed by the Rothschilds banking empire. George Washington was a freemason in Rothschild’s pay. After 1776 the USA became a private empire of the Rothschilds. The US Federal Reserve, which controls US finances, is nothing more than a private Rothschilds bank. All the wars which the US fought were fought on behalf of the Rothschilds, who use the US military as their own private Praetorian Guard for international plunder. Result ? Total US debt in 2012 was $ 222 trillion. [B.F.]
4. If there were two things one should not encourage one's children to become today, it's either conventional doctors or attorneys. Both require a suspension of higher ideals & an exploitation of an uninformed & emasculated populace. Both are corrupt, and both encourage a squandering of immense amounts of human potential. While allopathic medicine exploits & capitalizes on sickness, attorneys exploit & capitalize on adversity & conflict while covertly encouraging same. There is no honour in this. [Elm]
What we can see from the above is that the child will one day enter into a world where he will be exploited for most of his adult life while trying to live a normal life and to bring up a family. By the time he wizens up to the evil ones, he is too old or too wonned out to do anything about it. It will be up to him to prepare his children better so that they know about the fact that it is actually Corporations and not governments who are ruling this world. He must learn how the business world functions because for the rest of his life he will be reliant on it for his own survival as well as his families. Thus we can see how big a hold the corporations have over humanity. Can it be that we have already sold our souls to the corporations and materialism?
The days where a good education was enough to guarantee a good and stable future is long gone. Today the child must also be aware of how the game is being played in the real world. He has to learn the politics and realise that to get a good job is just half of the battle, the other half is to keep that job while all the negative forces gathers around to sabotage him. A lot of people would like to see others fail just to protect their own position. They will even work you out to get your job. I had a person working next to me once in an engineering workshop who never spoke a word to me all the time I was working there. When I eventually resigned, he could not stop talking to me and even tried to become my friend, just because his way for promotion was now open again till the next thread appears.
It does not have to be this way but at this stage the world is in today, this is how the game is being played. The good and the meek have a hard time to reach the top. In some professions they have no chance at all to succeed in a strong materialistic environment. The meek are naïve and suffer tremendously under their materialistic brothers and other corporate slaves. There is no Noah for them that can take them in an Ark to a better world; but then…..isn’t humanity as a whole building this ark of a better world where we will have no need for this corporate greed and competition and where we will live in harmony with nature and all animals? Yes, we are doing just that, but the end result is still very far off. Children must also become aware of the building of this ark; they must learn to do their share and never to lose faith for a better world, just like Noah and his family. This spiritual ark is as real as you and me, some of us are already on it.
Raising Christian children in this day and age is harder than ever and is getting harder every day. Kids today are attacked on all sides by noises, screens, and schedules that steal their faith and time with God. Ears are plugged with cell phones and what I call "i-solation-pods." Eyes are slaves to laptops and HDTV. Hands are occupied with keyboards and video games. Curriculums prepare children for the virtual reality of the future by teaching technology but neglecting social skills, core values, eye contact, and tangibles. They are training Corporate slaves. The overloaded child can’t connect with God. What’s a spiritually minded parent to do?
I found the following on the internet posted by Sharon Rechter:
I’m sure we’ve all witnessed how young children navigate an iPad with miraculous ease or find their favorite app on mom’s smart phone in record time. The intuitiveness is astounding and it seems to be present in even the youngest of kids – babies and toddlers. What do all these devices and content mean for their little lives? And how do we as parents manage it all to make sure our children are well-rounded and happy?
As a mother of two young girls and founder of a children’s TV network, I am no stranger to kids and technology. That said, I can recall the first time my eldest daughter discovered a feature on my phone that I didn’t even know existed! I was shocked to say the least, yet filled with a mother’s pride. In today’s technological world, I believe there’s a way to embrace it all and maintain a healthy balance at the same time.
What Does Screen Media Provide For Our Children
It used to be that there were only a few baby DVDs on the market. Today, however, babies and toddlers have thousands of mobile and tablet apps made just for them, and websites and educational television shows developed specifically for their unique capabilities. The good thing is that with all these choices, parents are empowered to select the right type of content for their little one.
What do all of these products do for our children? One study has revealed that educational screen media can actually teach our children. A University of Montevallo study (ranked No. 1 by U.S. News & World Report for education) took a group of children 3-1/2-years old and younger, and divided them into two groups. Both were given instruction in American Sign Language, but one group was taught in a traditional teacher-classroom setting, while the other received lessons through interactive TV, with subtitles prompting parents to perform specific tasks with their children, while they watched together. Results from the study showed that the interactive television group had greater proficiency with the skills they had learned.
In addition to learning new concepts, screen media and devices provide a variety of other benefits. For one, they allow parents and children to bond through a new experience. Often times I hear from dads that they just don’t know what to do with their 1-year-old. Engaging together with an iBook, for example, gives them an opportunity to curl up together and explore a story. Another benefit to technology is that it nurtures hand-eye coordination and serves as a manipulative skills learning toy. It can also give children a sense of accomplishment when they complete an online lesson or select the correct answer in a mobile game.
How Do We Find the Balance?
It makes sense that parents are timid about all this new technology. Some might even cringe when they think about how their children gravitate toward it. But I challenge myself and other moms to embrace this age of technology and take control of it. Here are a few tips that might help to ensure our children are balanced, happy, little people:
1.Do your research. This may go without saying, since moms are among the most research savvy consumers out there. But definitely take the time to read the reviews on apps and ask friends what educational TV shows they have discovered. There are more options than ever before, but it’s true that not all are created equal. Pay close attention to who is behind the product to ensure the creators are credible educators and/or psychologists that understand the unique needs of young children.
2.Limit screen time. We all know how much children love repetition. The words, ‘Again! Again!’ ring in our ears almost daily as toddlers are growing and exploring. As with any activity, it’s important to set limits that are right for your child and your family.
3.Use technology together. Sometimes it’s helpful to pass back your phone when your toddler is having a tough time on the long car ride or waiting for their mac and cheese in a restaurant. But when you’re at home, it’s nice to watch TV, explore websites and use apps together with your child. It gives you one-on-one time and also provides you with an opportunity to take the new word or number your baby is learning beyond the device. As an example, you can reinforce the color red when you’re cutting a tomato or when you’re playing with a toy fire truck.
4.Alternate screen time with other activities. Maybe it goes without saying, but as great as technology is for our families – we definitely need to balance it with other important staples of childhood and growing up. Get outside and play, read together at bedtime and invite that new neighbor over for a play date. Our kids will be better equipped and more well-rounded as a result.
Technology is here to stay. While we continue to wade through this job called parenting, educational and age-appropriate content and devices can be an excellent tool for introducing new concepts to our babies and toddlers in a fun way. Enjoy the moments of discovery together and relax. You’ve got things under control
Loving Discipline [By Mike Musick]
"Loving Discipline" There is a meaning for both the parents and the children hidden in these words. First of all, how many parents love disciplining their children? Secondly, how many parents discipline in a loving way? From my experience with my daughters, I believe that both are possible.
The only way we are able to love disciplining our children is if we have the proper intentions and the proper technique. Why do we discipline our children in the first place? Is it so they will stop being such a nuisance or bothering us? Do we discipline simply because thats what our parents did and we feel it is the right thing to do? So, why then? Well I think if we are able to step back or do a fly over of our children's lives, we would see that they need us to discipline them for their good. If we look at our own lives we will see how important it was for our parents to discipline us. How would we have graduated elementary school or high school, let alone college, graduate school, gotten that job, kept that job, gotten out of bed in the morning? Maybe some of you didn't have parents that took the time or care to discipline you as a child. Are there things in your lives that you now realize have been difficult to overcome or find the self-discipline to achieve? You see, our children are looking for us to provide some sort of boundaries, some sense of calmness for the storms of life. Good healthy discipline goes a long way; even can last a lifetime. Once you understand the value of discipline you can begin to truly love the disciplinary process. Over time, when you see how confident and safe and respectful your child behaves, you will truly see the results of loving discipline.
So what is loving discipline?
Fortunately, early in my marriage my ex-wife and I attended a marriage conference where they taught a very basic discipline principal that stayed with me over the years. They taught us a specific technique of healthy disciplinary action. So here's how it works. You tell your child to clean up the mess they spilled in the kitchen. He refuses and throws a tantrum. You warn him again and say, if you don't clean up that mess in 5 minutes Daddy is going to have to spank you. 5 minutes goes by with more tantrums and fits, but the mess remains. So you pick him up and take him to the place where you usually punish him. You spank him on the bottom; hard enough to make an impression. But you don't stop there. This is the key. After some of the sobbing and crying cease, you pick that boy up in your arms and you say. Buddy, Daddy only spanks you because he loves you. You didn't listen when Daddy told you to pick up the mess. I need you to respect Daddy when he tells you to do something. But I want you to know how much I love and care for you. You give him a hug and a kiss and send him on his way. I know it sounds crazy but it works!
If you are able to be consistent over time in this way, you will find that your child will respect you and others. Your child will feel loved. In fact, usually after a spanking or other discipline, my girls almost always say, "I love you Daddy." And I respond, "I love you too (nickname)" To me this is confirmation that they understand that Daddy cares enough for them to show them the right way, to guide them through life, to provide a consistent loving environment for them to grow and thrive.
For some of you this might be hard to believe or maybe you feel that spanking isn't appropriate for children. To you folks I would say this. Just modify your disciplinary action but don't leave out the love! Loving your children raises loving and respectful children. I promise!
Wealthy and Wise Tip: Don't be afraid to discipline your child. Someday they will thank you. [Mike]
Why did I put this in here? Because this part about expressing love to your child in everything you do to, or with, the child is very important. You do not have to tell your child every day that you love him… after all he must grow up and realise that his parents love him or her one day. But in cases like the above, it is definitely necessary to do so; as well as in cases where you are actually forced to do something cruel against your child. Here I can speak from experience….My son had a fever once so high that the doctor who came to our house was actually fearing for his life. At the end he said to me that there was nothing further he could do and that the only hope was that I must take him and dump him and hold him in a bath filled with cold water and ice. He said that I was the only person that can do it because if he, the doctor, does it, my son will never see, or trust, a doctor again in his life. The doctor hid behind the door of the bathroom keeping an eye on us while I did this. Needless to describe the screams and fighting that came from my son while I was battling to keep him in the water with only his mouth and nose basically out of the icy water. He must have thought I was going to drown him. Eventually, to my and my son’s relieve, the doctor told me it was enough and it was all over. This episode saved his life, but I lost part of my son that day that I miss too this day, thirty years later. Our relationship was damaged and it only went worse as he grew up; I am sure that he is at a lost today as to where and how it all started. I hope he reads this one day…..if I have spent more attention to the above facts about love I would have told him for hours how much I loved him but I left that part to his mother and thought that I was acting as a man and that my example would make a man out of him one day.
A tip from me: The one doing the spanking or dirty deed must be the one professing his love to the child; very important to remember this.
10 Tips for Teaching and Protecting Your Child
By Paula Statman, M.S.S.W.
How do you prepare your to child to navigate safely and confidently in the world, ready to deal with situations and people he or she may encounter? Here are 10 parenting tips to help make the journey a little more effective.
1.Accept your role as your child's protector and teacher. The kinds of issues our children are expected to deal with today are complex and often dangerous. Problems like violence, bullying, and online predators are commonplace in their world. To protect your son or daughter's emotional and physical well-being, you must learn about these and other tough issues and develop the skills to discuss them effectively.
2.Teach your child that he/she has the right to be safe. From the time your child understands words, instill in her the core belief that no one has the right to make her feel threatened or unsafe. This right is non-negotiable and is guaranteed by the United Nations/UNICEF Children's Protections Rights.
3.Prepare - don't scare - your kids. It is easy to get overwhelmed with your worries about your child's safety. But, research shows that if you contaminate what you are trying to teach with your fears, your child won't remember your message, only that you were scared. Practice using moderate language and a matter-of-fact tone when you discuss sensitive issues. Focus on what your child needs to learn rather than why it upsets you. Share your fears and worries with other adults rather than your children.
4.Help your child say 'no.' Did you say no to your parents? Do your kids say no to you? Whether or not you grew up with the right to set verbal boundaries with adults in authority, children need to be empowered with the right to say no to anyone who is acting inappropriately, regardless of their position or power. This is a first step in turning "nice" kids, who are compliant in most situations, in to "safe and strong" kids, who obey adults unless they feel confused or threatened.
5.Teach your child to recognize, trust, and act on her instincts. Help your child respond quickly and self-protectively if he or she gets an inner signal that something is not right. It might be a voice in her head that says "Uh-oh, this isn't OK." Or maybe it's a feeling in the pit of his stomach. Regardless of how the warning alarm sounds, the important thing is that your child be taught to listen to it and not rationalizes a person's behavior or wait for the situation to escalate.
6.Teach and model healthy boundaries in relationships. Beginning with body awareness in pre-school, children need to learn what a "respectful distance" looks and feels like. They also need to recognize if someone is ignoring their boundaries and what to do about it. The respect that you show for your children's physical and emotional space will set the tone for how they let others treat them.
7.Protect, Prepare, Practice, Praise, and Preview. Use these steps to teach your child skills such as crossing the street safely, riding the bus, walking to school, basically any skill where his safety is at stake. The emphasize is on supervised practice, which allows you to gauge your child's progress and ensures that you don't give him a new privilege or responsibility before he is prepared to handle it successfully.
8.Monitor your child. Protective parenting is not about hovering or being paranoid. It's about being a good observer, supervisor, and sometimes a detective. Listen to and watch your child. Be curious, involved, and ask questions. Notice any changes in her behavior or moods. You want to catch early signs of a budding problem rather than deal with a full-blown crisis.
9.Cultivate your child's self esteem and desirable traits. Be strategic and enthusiastically praise glimpses of behavior that you want to see more of, such as using good judgment or acting responsibly. Your child or teen will pick up on your pleasure in watching him become trustworthy and responsible and will try harder to demonstrate those kinds of behaviors.
10.Tell them you love them. In addition to expressing your love and appreciation when you feel proud of your child, be sure to express your love for no special reason or when the going gets tough. Kids who are loved unconditionally feel more worthwhile and are less vulnerable to mistreatment by others.